Discernment

Saturday was spent at PMT. It was heartening to see Violy, Wai Kit, and Sharon, and to hear the dhamma. Kor shared about Right View. And I received a book - Discernment. 

I think it's a book I can bring on the upcoming honeymoon.

Fly away!

I'm blessed to have my family as my spiritual friends. 

My takeaways from Kor's sharing: Right View has to be fabricated. And so is the spiritual path. Don't abandon the raft. Cling onto it with dear life, because the path is important.

I'm looking forward to the next sharing :)

a sunday kind of love

It's time for some review and reflection. I've attended some beneficial courses very recently: BSM (Building Strong Marriages); and The Influence Advantage (by Charisma Academy).


My key area of development now is how to practise assertiveness. It was a pleasant surprise how the Influence Advantage built upon the concepts on assertiveness that BSM had set the foundation, complementing each other.


The lesson from BSM was: assertiveness with kindness. In the Influence Advantage (IA), it was a practical model that was taught and definitely very applicable. The Z model of positive evaluation, negative evaluation, stating expectations, positive consequence, negative consequence. What really was helpful is the phrases I can use to express this expectation. "It would help if you could..." Though the phrases that were taught were "I'd like you to do this by..."; "I expect you to..." which probably would be applicable more for work than for personal relationships IMO.


The thing about stating expectations, is to state clearly and directly what I want. Which means I have to know exactly what I want. This need to convey exactly what I want, will definitely clear out my inner noise.


To be a good influencer, fickle mindedness is not one of her qualities. That's one thing I've got to try and kick out of my closet. (or my head).